[Feb 27, 2006, 09:45]erin v. I think it's a sad fact of life that people change, and sometimes you can deal with the change as a couple, and sometimes you can't. You can't anticipate it. Sometimes you're the one who changes and it's you that can't deal with it.
Having said that, I think it would be a huge mistake to go through life being afraid of what might happen. In all areas of life, you can give it all you have, and it still might not work out, and that's ok. You change your tactics and put your energy into something else.
I am probably one of the least experienced people, so my thoughts may be naive.
I haven't actually gone through a divorce, but I've been through a year-long separation, and a breakup with a fiancee. Both were painful as hell. Even so, I don't regret getting into those relationships. I find that you regret the things you *didn't* do much more than the things you did that went bad.
I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm never "sure" about much of anything. Nothing good comes without rolling the dice.
Trying and failing is no fun, but one can recover. Being afraid to try at all will haunt you to the grave.
[Feb 27, 2006, 09:45] erin v.
I think it's a sad fact of life that people change, and sometimes you can deal with the change as a couple, and sometimes you can't. You can't anticipate it. Sometimes you're the one who changes and it's you that can't deal with it.
Having said that, I think it would be a huge mistake to go through life being afraid of what might happen. In all areas of life, you can give it all you have, and it still might not work out, and that's ok. You change your tactics and put your energy into something else.
I am probably one of the least experienced people, so my thoughts may be naive.
[Feb 27, 2006, 12:55] Rspaight
Ditto to the above.
I haven't actually gone through a divorce, but I've been through a year-long separation, and a breakup with a fiancee. Both were painful as hell. Even so, I don't regret getting into those relationships. I find that you regret the things you *didn't* do much more than the things you did that went bad.
I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm never "sure" about much of anything. Nothing good comes without rolling the dice.
Trying and failing is no fun, but one can recover. Being afraid to try at all will haunt you to the grave.